Finding Purpose: From a Broken Self-Esteem to a Bestselling Author

I would like to share with you a very important lesson that transformed my life and can transform your life too…that’s the biggest lesson I’ve ever learned about finding your purpose, living simply and following your passion.

Here’s the beginning…

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I remember the day I returned home from school with my first chemistry lesson.

That day I had learned that there are three types of substances: solid, liquid, and gas. Our teacher told us to look carefully at everything we see and to categorize it into the right type.

I was very excited about the lesson and assignment, and started my examination of things around me while I ate lunch. I looked at the plates and categorized them under the solid category, the water under the liquid category, and the smell of the food under the gas category. Then I took a piece of bread and cut it – and I was shocked! What type of substances is this? I could easily cut it, so it couldn’t be a solid, and of course it couldn’t be a liquid or a gas.

So what could the bread be?!

At first I was confused, but then I got really excited!

I thought I had made a huge discovery, and started dreaming of seeing and hearing my name in all the national and international newspapers, magazines, and TV shows – all amazed by the genius kid who had made the greatest discovery of the century.

I finished lunch quickly and rushed to my room. I grabbed my science book and a sheet of paper and started writing a scientific paper. After listing all the characteristics of solids, liquids, and gases, I wrote, “And since bread shares none of these characteristics, it must fall under a fourth category – elastic substance.”

Thrilled about my discovery, I took my paper and rushed to my father’s room. My father is very logical, conservative, and critical. He doesn’t pay much attention to the pros of things or situations – but he sees the cons clearly and vividly!

I opened the door. “What’s up, son?” he asked with apprehension.

“Hey, Dad, please take a look at this!”

“What is it?” … “Just read this, please. Please!” I handed him my paper proudly, then stood there with the unshakable confidence of a genius.

My father read the paper…and began to laugh!  … “What’s wrong?” I asked, devastated.

And he said, “Do you really think that all the greatest scientists in the world haven’t already thought of this?”

“Umm, I don’t know,” I said weakly … “Son, bread is considered a solid. And don’t tell anyone about this, or they will laugh at you.”

TOTAL DISAPPOINTMENT! BROKEN SELF-ESTEEM

My father’s logic won over mine. His logic spoke to mine, and it made perfect sense. I thought to myself, “He must be right. Haven’t scientists throughout history eaten bread? If this is something worth discovering, they would have discovered it long ago.”

Defeated and disappointed, I threw my scientific paper away. After that experience, I lost trust in my own thoughts and ideas. I became very hesitant about every step I made and every new endeavor I began. Whenever someone said “That will be difficult” or “That’s wrong” or “That doesn’t make sense,” I just listened and quit whatever I was doing.

The years passed like that. Finally, in my last year at college, I fell in love with the field of success and motivation. I had the gut instinct that this would be my field, the field where I could leave a great legacy – a field I could live and die for.

I decided to immediately print business cards so I could start building my identity and my practice as a success coach.

When I stepped into the printing company, I saw the owner, a man in his late thirties, sitting behind his wooden desk, calm and relaxed. There were some boxes on his desk that I assumed contained samples of all the cards he had printed for his clients. He was like a card collector – a smart business networking man! With all those cards, he must have contacts in every field imaginable!

I said, “Hello, I’d like to have some business cards printed, please.”

“Of course, our pleasure,” he said. “But we have to agree on something first. We usually take the first business card from each client. See this box of cards?”

“Oh sure, it will be an honor,” I replied.

“It’s a deal, then. What name do you want to put on the card?”

“Mohamed Tohami.”

“And what is the title?”

“Umm…Success and Life Mastery Coach.”

“Sorry? Can you say that again?!”

“Success and Life Mastery Coach,” I said again, getting a little nervous.

“What kind of profession is that?”

“Oh, it’s kind of a counselor that helps people achieve their goals and succeed,” I explained.

“I’m not sure I understand. Anyway, are you sure you want to write that?”

“Yes, please.”

A few days later, I went back to pick up my cards. “Thanks,” I said. “The printing looks great!”

I paid and started to leave before I remembered: “Oh, sorry. I almost forgot about the card you asked for.”

And the business owner replied, “Oh, no no. Never mind. You can keep it.”

“No way,” I said firmly. “Here – take TWO!”

Then I rushed home, opened the door to my father’s room, and handed him a card, saying, “Hey, dad, please keep this with you – you might need it!”

He smiled and said, “Oh, a business card?” Then he looked at it and started to laugh.

“Success and Life Mastery Coach? Hmm. Do you really think you can teach people how to succeed? You just graduated! Go get a job first. Excel at it and succeed in it, and then you can start thinking about helping other people. But not before at least 5 to 7 years.”

Once again, I was disappointed.

And once again, his logic made perfect sense. How on earth could I teach people how to succeed without having had any kind of experience or success myself?

But this time, there was a small difference. His logic was not speaking to my logic. Instead, it was speaking to my heart.

Years later, when I reflected back on that moment, I realized that when your heart enters the challenge, your success is 100% guaranteed.

Something happened to me as I stood there in my father’s room. Up until that point, I had always quit projects or given up on my ideas as soon as I found them too difficult or other people told me that I’d never succeed.

But this time, I didn’t stop or quit. Instead, I became deaf and blind to every single negative influence.

For the first time in my entire life, I wasn’t hesitant. I didn’t give up easily, and I didn’t quit. I stood solid as a pyramid against the laughter, criticism, and disbelief of others. And I followed the guidance of my heart.

For me, my newfound strength against all odds was a perfect sign that I had found my true purpose in life. I finally felt that I had all the motivation I’d ever need to keep moving forward in the direction of my dreams.

I won’t claim that I had a vivid idea in my mind of what I would achieve or how I’d go about it. All I knew back then was that I loved success and helping people succeed more than anything on earth. And for me, that was enough.

You will be surprised to know that I no longer believe in the famous saying “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

It’s not 100% correct, at least for me. Willpower didn’t help me that much in my journey through life. Will was not my secret weapon – in fact, it let me down many times.

My secret weapon was my heart. So now I say,

“Where there’s a HEART, there’s a way.”

I started working very hard and learned like a sponge. I read every book I could get my hands on. I worked on developing myself, my knowledge, my experience, and my credibility. I totally immersed myself in my chosen field. Of course I got a 9-to-5 job, but I followed my passion in every spare second I had and stuck with it, no matter what.

I even left a stressful job and found a less stressful and less time-consuming one, just so I’d have more time to dedicate to my passion.

I started to find opportunities to speak and train other people. Then I built my website and started to learn and use Internet marketing tactics to reach out to thousands of people worldwide with my articles, Teleseminars, coaching and online products.

Eventually, I learned that the easiest way to become successful is to find someone who is already successful at what you want to do and follow in his footsteps. So I started to interview over 150 top success and business gurus.

I asked them about their secrets of success and transformation and how they built their success empires from scratch. I learned from them hundreds of hands-on success strategies and transformational wisdom.

And I recorded these interviews in a project called The Success Avalanche, and published it on the web so other people could listen and benefit from it – that’s 80+ hours of motivation, inspiration and success insights.

Then, after six years of research and study, I wrote my first book, The Pharaohs’ Code.

And what did I do after it was published and I received my first copy?

I took it to my father – yes, AGAIN!

“Hey, dad. Please take a look at this book.”

“Oh, it looks great. Hmm, The Pharaohs’ Code – interesting title.” He started flipping through the pages. He liked the chapter titles a lot and was amazed by the powerful testimonials and endorsements written by top success experts. Then he asked, “Who is the author? Oh, is that you? When did you do that? How did you know all these people who wrote these endorsements for your book?”

I smiled and said, “I’ve been working.”

Yes, that’s all I’d done. I’d been working for six years, but I was driven by a heart full of fire and desire!

I can’t claim that I had a vision to write a book – all I know is that I had a heart that deeply loved success wisdom. Along the way, I was struck by one idea after the other. From the interviews, to the research into the literature and wisdom of the pharaohs, and finally to finding a way to bring those two things together in a book.

And on May 19, 2009, The Pharaohs’ Code became the #1 bestselling motivational book on Amazon!

When I reflect back on that accomplishment and ask myself how I did it, I realize that much of that success came because I learned how to “tango with my heart.” The logic of my mind had nothing to do with it initially; instead, it all started with my intense LOVE of something, and in putting my full trust in my heart to lead the way.

That’s what you need to do to transform your life and manifest the success you dream of.

Tango with your heart.

How many times have you buried your dreams and ignored the love and light in your heart because of circumstances, other people, or your own self-limiting beliefs and fears?

Because someone, somewhere, somehow told you “son, you’re not qualified”, that you don’t have enough knowledge or experience, that you’re too young or too old – and they called this ADVICE!

And how many times have you listened to this negative input? How many times have you quit? How many times have you given up your dreams? How was your life after that? Lifeless?

Enough is enough.

It is time to tango with your heart.

You don’t always have to follow logic, stumble upon a magical idea, or do what makes sense.

Sometimes you just have to do what FEELS right, because that’s what makes all the difference!

Listen to your heart. Listen to its magnificent symphony.

In your heart lies your greatness, your uniqueness, your brilliance, your legacy, and your happiness. There in your heart lies your satisfaction, your fulfillment, your vitality, and your dreams. There in your heart lies the true you.

There is no shame in not being “qualified” for something. There is no shame in failing.

The only shame is giving up your dreams.

Brian Tracy once said, “Most people die at the age of 25 and have their bodies buried at the age of 65!”

They die at the age of 25 – because they give up their dreams and live a lifeless life.

You don’t want to belong to this category. Now is your time to tango with your heart.

Find your purpose, activate your passion, liberate your uniqueness, get noticed, and add enormous value to your life and the lives of others. Now is your time to overcome the hits and strikes of life, persevere with your dreams, follow your passion and feel the pride.

Now is your time to look the naysayers in the eye – those who laughed at you, those who didn’t believe in you – and to let your best response be a remarkable success.

No more fears and no more hesitation. No more tears and no more limitations.

This is your day

This is the beginning of your new life, the life that you truly deserve.

Now is your time to shine and show the world the promise and brilliance of your legacy.

Now is the time to find your purpose and tango with your heart.

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7 Responses to Finding Purpose: From a Broken Self-Esteem to a Bestselling Author

  1. Kathy@ SMART Living 365.com July 22, 2013 at 3:58 pm #

    Great article Tohami and CONGRATULATIONS for listening to your heart and soul for your inspiration rather than anyone else. It’s usually the hardest with people you are closest to…like your father…but when we can do that the sky really is the limit. So glad to hear that you have had such GREAT success with your book too. Keep it up…I’m thinking you are just getting started :-) And for anyone who would like more info about self-esteem I too wrote an article that might be helpful to some at: http://smartliving365.com/self-esteem-self-image-whats-the-difference-why-does-it-matter/ Thanks for jump-starting my Monday morning with your inspiring story! ~Kathy

    • Mohamed Tohami July 23, 2013 at 12:40 pm #

      When you listen to your heart, even the sky is not the limit :) Thanks for sharing your great article too.

  2. Kimberley July 23, 2013 at 7:57 am #

    Such an insightful post, Mohamed. Two quotes came to mind as I read your story:

    1. “Hold the vision, Trust the Process”. (I don’t know the author of this quote)
    2. “Do or Do not, there is no try” from Yoda in Star Wars.

    You did both! Way to go :)

    • Mohamed Tohami July 23, 2013 at 12:41 pm #

      I like the second quote very much. There is no such thing as ‘try’, you either DO or DO NOT. Interesting!

  3. Van July 24, 2013 at 3:35 am #

    Mohamed, I got a bit teary eyed after reading this post. I remembered my own father. Like you, I was raised to believe that if there’s a will, there’s a way. I languished in a job that wasn’t right for me for years. I stayed because it was the “right”, practical path. My motivation was fear: fear of losing my benefits, of being ridiculed, of going after an unattainable path. I’m far from being the story of success as you’ve been (congratulations on your wonderful book!), but I am so much more content now. A heartfelt thank you for the inspiration and for sharing your story.

    • Mohamed Tohami July 24, 2013 at 12:42 pm #

      Hi Van, I’m glad that you’re more content now and that you chose the path that reflected what matters most to you. This is what success is all about.

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